You are 3 months old in these photos. You had the sweetest personality and would often laugh at the silliest things! We enjoyed our daily morning routine of singing nursery rhymes together. You would reward me with such smiley eyes and an ear to ear grin. You would often coo and babble trying to join in.
You’ve been exploring different noises and sounds for a while, but you recently started babbling mamamama a lot! I know it’s way too early to speak yet, but it made me so happy to hear you say that while looking at me and grinning.
You went to your first wedding here in Los Angeles. It was an amazing Filipino-Indian Wedding! You were such a hit, everyone complimented how adorable you were and how surprisingly well behaved you were! You were so observant about everything going on and constantly smiling and giggled. People were in such disbelieve when I told them it was normal for you to hardly ever cry. Maybe it’s because you were always with me, so you never really had a reason to. ☺
I’m serious, you hardly ever cried, and if you did it was nothing that me holding you and cuddling you couldn’t instantly fix. We just couldn’t get enough of each other. I am always here for you baby girl, I hear you, I see you, I believe your wants are your needs, and they are valid. I never feared spoiling you because there is no such thing as spoiling a baby with too much love. I treasure the fact that all it takes to make you happy is my presence. I secretly hope that never changes, because I’m always here for you.
I often caught you staring up at me in awe and when I’d look right back, you’d get the biggest smile. It’s as if you were waiting for me to just look at you. You would melt my heart with each giggle, squeal, and coo. We would babble back and forth and have frequent conversations. We did this for hours and hours. You aren’t just completely immersed in my world. You ARE my whole world.
At the wedding
With daddy and the pups!
I love having you everywhere with me. You’re my little buddy and pretty much my partner in crime.
Drogo liked to check in on you to make sure you were okay in your carseat.
But then he remembered were just a straight up G, even in your sleep.
One time, I put my fingers in front of you and you reached for them to try to get up. So I helped you sit up. Since then you’ve been OBSESSED with trying to get up, it would make you SO happy!
Just chillin’ with your Akki
You started to self soothe here and there around this time on your own using your fingers. We were told that this is actually a really beneficial thing for you to do and helps regulate emotions naturally. There was no need to interfere with this as we weren’t worried about it becoming a habit since we knew you would stop on your own (lo and behold you stopped by 6 months). But you still felt the need to do it in secret for some reason…
Hubba hubba (you were never amused by daddy’s antics)
Bath time fun
There you go, using me as your footrest again. No matter what, you demanded comfort.
Hanging out with your mommy & me pals
Such a happy silly baby
I can’t think of a witty caption but you’re definitely thinking something interesting.
Your check up visit!
We loved playing..
I’m going to get you!!!
We just couldn’t handle how cute you were. We just couldn’t take it!!! We just wanted to squeeze and squish you all the time.
With lots of love,
Mommy & Daddy
Husband feeling neglected
The challenge I faced during this time was figuring out how to make Sameer not feel neglected. He felt as if I forgot all about him and that all my love transferred over to Sareena! Of course, that wasn’t true one bit and I couldn’t help but laugh. It took me a while to realize he wasn’t joking and was actually scared I didn’t need him anymore! He thought Sareena replaced him.
I had to gently explain to him that there is now another family member I have to take care of, especially since this family member is so little and brand new to the world. Babies constantly feed and want to be cuddled. Whether we like it or not, they require a lot of time and attention.
Sameer told me how he wished I were more available so we could do everything together like we used to. All he wanted was to spend time with me. Not as mommy and daddy, but as husband and wife once in a while. To resume our dinners at home where we just focus on each other, with conversations that don’t entail parenthood, to keep getting to know each other even after 3 years of marriage. To simply continue to date each other and be our silly selves. To just be Sameer and Shveta.
That broke my heart. All my husband has ever wanted is my love and attention. He is happy as long as I am happy. He has never asked for anything more than time with me. I’m glad he was vocal about this because I would not have realized this until much later on! I am grateful I had the opportunity to fix this early on.
We’ve had to become more mindful and creative with spending quality time together. It is definitely possible; we just have to work harder at it now. As a result, we cherish each other even more and we really value each moment alone together.